Some of you may be wondering why I don’t review romance novels on this blog. Or why I give lower ratings to books that have even a teensy bit of romance in them. Well, in this post, I’m here to answer that question.
My #1 reason: I don’t read romance novels because I don’t want to think about the things that they promote.
Romance novels tend to make the readers dwell on things that they shouldn’t. As an unmarried young lady, I want to keep my heart pure for my future husband, and ultimately for God. (Before You Meet Prince Charming is a great book to read on this subject!) That means that I don’t want to think about romance. Even a little bit of romance (a hug, crushes, characters constantly thinking about each other, starry-eyed smiles, you get the point) in a book could make me start thinking about what boys I “like”, or planning my wedding… and by the way, I’m still a teenager, and so I’m not going to get married for a long time- what is the point of thinking about stuff like that?? It simply distracts me from the important things in life- like my relationship with God and my family.
Even if I was married, I don’t think I’d want to read romance novels. They could cause me to become discontent if my husband isn’t as handsome as the male lead in the book, or possibly cause other problems, which I’m not aware of since I’m not married and don’t read romance novels. 😉
My #2 reason for not reading romance novels: My mom doesn’t want me to.
I am immensely grateful that my mom had the wisdom to forbid me to read romance novels. When I was younger, I didn’t appreciate it so much. What’s wrong with a little romance in a mystery novel? Now I’m realizing that she was, and is, right. As detailed above, I don’t think that reading romance would encourage my walk with the Lord.
I have been able to find only a couple of books in which there is romance which I believe is appropriate and godly. London in the Dark is one of those books; the main storyline is a mystery, and the main character gets married at the end. Before the last chapter, we have no hint that Olivia (the MC) is even interested in her future husband (unless there were hints and I totally missed them, which is possible). I also enjoyed the Courtship series by Mr. and Mrs. Stephen B. Castleberry. Jeff McLean: His Courtship was very helpful in that it outlines some requirements for a wife from the Bible; it was good for evaluating my life. The Courtship of Sarah McLean, by the same authors, was also very good.
Note: Just because I do not read books with romance in them does not mean that I look down on those who do. I have some very good friends who do read romance novels. I wanted to share my reasons for not reading books like that so that others would be challenged to evaluate their reasons for doing so, not so that they would be offended or start an argument. 😉
Well, those are my reasons why I don’t read romance novels. What do you think? Do you read romance novels? If so, why do you? Do you know of any other good books with godly romance in them? Let me know in the comments!